{"id":4573,"date":"2015-01-30T13:33:02","date_gmt":"2015-01-30T07:48:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dorjegurung.com\/blog\/?p=4573"},"modified":"2026-03-13T22:16:18","modified_gmt":"2026-03-13T22:16:18","slug":"its-not-you-its-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/2015\/01\/its-not-you-its-me\/","title":{"rendered":"“It’s Not You, It’s Me!”"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Following my response to the above comment, I realized that there maybe others with similar — or other — grips about my writings and\/or the way I have been dealing with the issues surrounding the ordeal<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, I decided a blog post around the comment and my response was in order.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To begin with, the ex-QA staff — whose identity I don’t know — posted the comment under both Qatar…From Afar: The (Un) expected<\/a> and Qatar…From Afar: Autopilot<\/a>. (Follow the link to Autopilot to see the text message the comment refers to.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lacking in sufficient knowledge about and, here in Nepal, lacking in guidance for and support with how to deal with everything associated with the ordeal<\/a> and its aftermath, I have been following my intuition, gut feelings and what has felt “right” and appropriate. With everything I have done, I have followed my own timeline, whether it be writing about it — the best decision I made — or doing something else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, when this comment came through, I held off responding until I felt I was ready. (Incidentally, I don’t respond to every comment.) And ready I was — more than seven months later — after I had made presentations in Hong Kong<\/a> in early December and published the most recent post<\/a> in the series. (If you follow the links and watch one of the embedded videos and\/or read the post, you’ll understand what I mean.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The administrator was my go-to person, heavily involved<\/a> in my preparation for departure from Qatar<\/a> (referred to as PC and “another administrator” respectively in the two posts), hence the individual figuring so prominently in blog posts about the ordeal. I never had — nor do I have — anything personal against this colleague of course. That colleague could have been anyone!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If even after reading the response to the comment and watching one of the videos of my presentation in Hong Kong<\/a> and\/or reading the last blog post<\/a> in series, you still feel that I am causing you sadness — or offending your sensibilities — by unfairly characterizing you and\/or your friends or colleagues\u2026or you still feel that I seem to NOT be aware of your and\/or those of your friends\u2019 and acquaintances’ contributions to the Free Dorje Gurung campaign\u2026or you still feel that I am NOT giving proper credit and recognition to your and\/or your friends\u2019 and acquaintances’ contributions to the Free Dorje Gurung campaign\u2026or you still feel that the thankfulness<\/a> and gratitude<\/a> I have expressed so far is — for whatever reason — insufficient…I don’t know what to say apart from to say that I have only my apologies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If, however, you have understood everything in this post…if you have understood that “It’s not you, it’s me,” then you probably also know what I am saying! (I am not asking to “break up” or sever ties with you for instance! \ud83d\ude42 )<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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This really isn’t anything to do with you or is it about you…really! This has to do with and is about me in it’s entirety. However, don’t worry, I am not “breaking up” with you!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":4574,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[30,31],"tags":[60,166],"class_list":["post-4573","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-qatar","category-qatar-academy","tag-free-dorje-gurung-campaign","tag-qatari-jail"],"blocksy_meta":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/autopilot-comment-from-ex-QA.png","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2Jbro-1bL","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4573","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/9"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4573"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4573\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":30074,"href":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4573\/revisions\/30074"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4574"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4573"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4573"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dorjegurung.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4573"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}