Read more about the article Sandeep Lamichhane is But Just the Tip of the Hollow and Deeply Flawed Society That is Nepal

Sandeep Lamichhane is But Just the Tip of the Hollow and Deeply Flawed Society That is Nepal

A vast majority of poorly educated Nepalis raise their sons by pampering and pandering to them. Consequently, Nepali society ends up with an inordinately high percentage of arrogant and ignorant males who believe they deserve -- or are entitled to -- all the male privileges society affords them. One entitlement they believe in is to the bodies of females.

Of course, quality education for the masses is the solution.

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Read more about the article Adults Go from Awareness to Attitude to Behavior, While for Children It’s the Reverse

Adults Go from Awareness to Attitude to Behavior, While for Children It’s the Reverse

When behavioral changes have taken place in an adult, we say that change has really taken place. When enough adults change their behavior, society changes.

Behavioral changes in adults, however, is a three step process and that's why it does NOT happen readily or easily or quickly. It start with awareness, which then leads to changes in attitude, which in turn leads, finally, to changes in behavior.

What’s interesting about children, however, is that they start with behavior, which adults can instill in them by modelling.

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Read more about the article As Much as We are Products of Our Culture, Education, Society etc. We are Also Their Shapers

As Much as We are Products of Our Culture, Education, Society etc. We are Also Their Shapers

As much as we are products of our culture, education, society, and people, and as much as a closed and inward-looking society and people might fail us, as individuals we are also influencers and shapers of our culture and society!

When it comes to verbal, emotional, and physical violence against children is concerned, for example, we Nepalis have a choice. We don't have to follow the dictates of our culture and society. We can instead teach about empathy and compassion and even display them towards our children to end the vicious cycle of childhood violence, a hallmark of child-rearing and educational practices.

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Read more about the article “Nothing is more despicable than respect based on fear”: Want Respect? Show Respect!

“Nothing is more despicable than respect based on fear”: Want Respect? Show Respect!

In Nepal, respect for teachers and administrators is instilled in student through the threat of violence, i.e. fear! That, of course, is despicable, just as Albert Camus says. Getting students to respect teachers is easy: just show them respect by listening to them.

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Read more about the article Child Rearing and Education: “Best Discipline” Through No “Disciplining”

Child Rearing and Education: “Best Discipline” Through No “Disciplining”

Contrary to what many Nepalis believe and will tell you, raising a child to be a well disciplined one does NOT require "disciplining." In other words, to raise a well-behaved child, you don't have to scold, scream, shout, beat, or humiliate the child. All you have to do is to raise them by respecting, listening, and engaging with them.

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Read more about the article How I Dealt With My Little Nephew’s Temper Tantrums

How I Dealt With My Little Nephew’s Temper Tantrums

When a baby or toddler throws a temper tantrum, the easiest way to deal with it is to divert their attention to something else by talking to the child. It could be about something you see in the sky or nearby or it could be about the music you just started playing etc. The very very short attention span of such children means that they will readily and easily refocus their attention to a new stimulus from what they are fixated on when they are throwing the tantrum.

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Read more about the article The Moment of Truth V: “The Time Has Come. The Time is Now.”

The Moment of Truth V: “The Time Has Come. The Time is Now.”

All the time I was abroad, even while preparing for the eventuality of returning to Nepal, I had never had a timeline. The first time I contemplated a timeline was the Summer of 2009: I gave myself five years. In February 2013, almost four years later, I decided, the time was right to return. Timing was right for a number of reasons, namely, financial, career, weariness with moving, and a little one at home.

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